If you really love someone, you never truly get tired of him or her. No matter how great your day might be going, your special person will make it better. When you just like someone, he or she might make your day better, but probably isn’t the best part. The following steps outline how you can really tell if you are in love …
- See if you can’t picture a future without your loved one.
If you are really in love, then you shouldn’t be able to picture your future without them. If you can’t imagine going through life without your significant other — not just next summer, or next year ,or whenever— then you may be truly in love.
- See if you can’t go a few hours without thinking of your loved one.
If you have a healthy loving relationship, then you should be able to spend time apart from your loved one without obsessing over what he or she is doing every five seconds. However, if you can go a whole weekend, or a whole month, without your loved one once crossing your mind, then you may like him a lot, but you may not necessarily have reached the love stage yet.
- See if you truly value the opinions of your loved one
If you’re really in love, then you won’t just be thinking of your loved one as a perfect object that should be worshiped, but as a living, breathing human being with an interesting perspective and many unique opinions. If you’re really in love, then you should value your loved one’s opinion and should care about what he or she thinks, whether it’s about your next career move or the political situation in your country. Though you don’t have to care what he or she thinks about absolutely everything, if you don’t truly value the input of your loved one, then you may not be in love yet.
- See if your loved one makes you want to be a better person
If you’re really in love, then you shouldn’t just be completely comfortable, even if you’re very content with your loved one. Though being happy with the relationship you have and the person that you are is essential, being with your loved one should make you want to take your life to the next level and to be the best person you can possibly be.
- See if you feel like the best version of yourself when you’re with your loved one
If you’re in love, then the person you love should bring out the best in you. After all, if you’re in love, then you should want to be with the person you’re with for the rest of your life, so that person should make you feel like your best self. If you feel like you can never fully be who you are, or that you’re inadequate in some way when you’re around your loved one, then you may not be in love.
- See if you’re aware of your loved one’s flaws – and are okay with them
If you’re really in love, then you should be able to see your significant other as a real live human being with real human flaws – not as a god or a goddess. If you insist that your loved one is perfect, then you have a real problem. But if you’re comfortable admitting that your loved one can be a bit selfish or isn’t the world’s greatest listener, then you have a more realistic perspective on the relationship and are much more likely to be in love for real.
- See if you take pleasure in helping your loved one
Love is about give and take. If you’re in love, then you should enjoy the giving just as much as the taking. You should take pleasure in making your loved one lunch, giving him or her a ride when s/he needs one, or even doing your loved one’s laundry if he or she is having a rough week. Though you shouldn’t get taken advantage of, you should be able to enjoy helping your loved one when he needs it, and be prepared to be helped in return.
- See if your loved one makes you laugh
Love doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. Sure, you can spend hours staring longingly into the eyes of your loved one, but that can get a little boring. If you’re really in love, then you should be able to goof off and laugh with your loved one, and to enjoy the sense of humor of your loved one. Though neither of you have to be comedians for your relationship to work, it helps to be able to laugh with each other from time to time. This shows that you’re comfortable enough (and happy enough) with each other to be in love.
- See if you enjoy doing the little things with your loved one
True love isn’t like Bridget Jones’s Diary — real love means being able to find the fun in the mundane things with your loved one, from having a beer or two at your local bar to buying kitty litter and stopping to get ice cream on the way home.
- See if you’ve made it through the tough times
Love isn’t a bed of roses, though if you’re truly in love, the good days should far outnumber the bad, and you should be comfortable staying in your relationship during less-than-ideal circumstances, from a job loss to the death of a loved one. Tough situations can test the strength of your relationship, and if you’ve never had to overcome a significant hurdle with or loved one, then you may not have enough information to know if you’re in love yet.